In working with women on their relationship to intimacy, I started seeing some clear patterns. The women I support have all fallen into one (or more) the 5 archetypes below. And I have been all of these women in different chapters of my life.

Current chapter for me is full acceptance of the fiery one 🙋‍♀️ (no one is surprised).

I’m curious, which of these women are you?

The sensitive one.

She feels everything, but struggles to feel safe. She’s deeply intuitive, creative, and tuned in. But in relationships, her sensitivity turns into anxiety, reactivity, or collapse. She’s terrified of being too much, or not enough. She gets stuck in anxious-avoidant loops, doubting herself constantly.

The caretaker.

She’s a natural caregiver, coach, healer, or space holder. She’s wise beyond her years, but often stuck in people-pleasing, self-abandonment, or dating down. She knows she’s meant for deeper love, but keeps looping old wounds.

The fiery one.

She’s bold, expressive, and passionate. She wants deep love, soul-level sex, and growth in partnership. But most men feel too fragile, too small, or too unavailable to meet her in her full power. She’s worried the partner she wants doesn’t exist or is too rare a unicorn to find.

The over-functioning lover.

She’s the one holding it all together. She’s smart, capable, and emotionally literate, but she’s exhausted. She often feels more like a therapist or manager in her relationship than an equal. She’s read the books, done the work… but still feels unmet. She longs for someone who can see her, hold her, and lead her well, so she can take a break.

The guarded heart.

She wants love, but can’t relax into it.
She’s been betrayed, disappointed, let down by love. Maybe more than once.
So now, she doesn’t trust easily.
She keeps people at arm’s length, analyzes everything, and quietly wonders if real love is even possible for her.

👁️ Whichever one(s) you see yourself in, she’s not the whole truth of who are you. You don’t have to stay stuck in her story.

And she’s not your limit, she’s your starting point.

Inside Becoming the Muse, we meet these parts of you with love, and guide you into the version of you who calls in devotion, safety, and power, without shape-shifting to earn it.

Caite