I didn’t know I was living by rules I never agreed to.

Smile, be nice, don’t make anyone uncomfortable. Be low-maintenance. Be grateful for what you get. Keep the peace.

I didn’t know how much of my life I was building around not feeling shame (basically all of it).

I didn’t want to feel like a burden. Didn’t want to be too much. Too needy, too emotional, or too messy.

The “Good Girl” isn’t just an identity– it’s a nervous system pattern.

It’s what you learned to be to stay safe, to be loved, to survive.

And she’ll keep you small, resentful, and performing instead of belonging.

The Good Girl doesn’t attract devotion, she attracts transactional love.

She attracts men who benefit from her having no needs and no big feelings. She attracts relationships that are claustrophobic.

She doesn’t inspire the grounded, self-led masculine, because she’s too busy managing, pleasing, and shrinking to be truly felt.

She hides her truth to keep the peace, then wonders why he won’t meet her in his depth.

She asks for so little, then resents that she receives crumbs.
Not because she’s broken, but because her power is buried beneath who she thought she had to be to be loved.

Real intimacy requires your wholeness.
Not the mask, or the performance, or the perfectly palatable version of you.

In my work with my clients, we unlearn this survival strategy, gently, lovingly, without shame.

Not by rejecting her, but by giving you back the parts of yourself she had to hide.

We reclaim your voice, your no, your longing. We build your capacity to feel, to stay, to choose.

Not from fear, not from fantasy, but from a deep-rooted truth in your body.

This is what real feminine power feels like.

And it’s wildly inspiring.

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