I was fantasizing about my ideal relationship in my 20s, thinking it was about getting lucky and finding the guy, meanwhile I had no healthy relationship skills and no securely attached mature man was going to choose a woman like me. It took a lot of painful lessons to realize that I needed to learn some new skills and do some nervous system healing work if I wanted a better experience inside partnership.

There are 6 things I believe you need to learn and practice to create a healthy fulfilling relationships.

I teach these all inside Becoming the Muse:

1. Nervous system safety in intimacy
You’ll learn to recognize and shift the stress responses that sabotage connection (think: freeze, fawn, chase, control, dissociate), so love feels safer and sex gets easier.

2. Clear desire + discernment
You’ll get radically clear on what you want (and what you won’t do anymore): non-negotiables, standards, erotic truth, and the kind of partnership that actually fits your life.

3. Healthy + hot boundaries
You’ll practice saying no, asking for what you want, and holding lines with warmth, without over-explaining, collapsing, or people-pleasing.

4. Relational skillfulness
You’ll learn practical ways to navigate conflict, repair, triggers, and emotional waves so you can deepen intimacy rather than rupture or withdraw.

5. Repatterning attachment + love wounds
You’ll stop repeating the same relationship cycles by working at the level of your nervous system + subconscious patterning, not just “trying harder” or learning more concepts.

6. Embodied erotic aliveness
You’ll reconnect to sensuality, turn-on, and erotic confidence in a way that’s sovereign (not performative), so you feel more magnetic, alive, and expressive.

7. A solid support system 👯‍♀️
Stop making your partner your only source of emotional regulation, intimacy, and resourcing. Being well-supported makes you a better lover (and takes pressure off the relationship).

8. Staying power 🐆
You’ll strengthen the capacity to keep showing up through discomfort, practice new skills when your old patterns flare, and repair after rupture, without bailing, threatening, or collapsing.

Becoming the Muse

Love, Caite