The Vedic lineage I study teaches that karma is the consequence of unconscious action.

Like that time you picked a fight with your partner before leaving town. Your abandonment wound was activated in anticipation of the time apart, but it was unconscious and it just felt like pent up energy/contraction in your body.

So you made it about something they were or weren’t doing.

The fight led to a release of the tension, and a rupture that you were in control of.

Maybe you even got the reward of a makeup moment full of reassurances and a feeling of reconnection, which made the space between you while you were away feel easier to bear.

That is you creating relationship karma:

Unconscious patterns that will ultimately undermine trust and connection in the long-run, and reinforce mistaken beliefs about love from childhood.

What if you bring all this into consciousness?

Now you can tend to your anxious inner child before trips, your partner can be invited to offer more reassurance during those transitions, and you can have a plan in place for ways to feel connected when you’re apart.

No fight needed. No karma created.

Now you’re building trust and intimacy.

We all have relationship karma.

It looks like…

You keep dating men who leave.

You keep dating men who cheat.

Always the girlfriend, never the wife.

Perpetually feeling dissatisfied in relationships.

You get controlling and critical of them.

Losing yourself in relationships.

Getting wobbly and forgetting your power when dating.

Dating projects instead of true partners.

You shrink to keep the peace.

You get emotionally reactive and chaotic.

Getting sneaky and dishonest to avoid uncomfortable conversations.

I could go on… but you get the idea.

It’s the patterns we keep repeating, and they hurt.

So how do we clear relationship karma?

1. Make the unconscious conscious so we stop adding to the pile.
2. Reconcile for the consequences of our unconscious actions.

I take 1:1 clients and the women inside Becoming the Muse through two particularly powerful processes to do exactly this.

It shifted my relationship karma in profound ways, and allowed me to create a new template for love–one full of depth, devotion, sacred intimacy and inspiration… even when relationships ended.

Come clear relationship karma so you can write a new story,

-C