I don’t know who needs to hear this today but the prize for doing “the work” is not getting the dream guy/girl, it’s staying true to yourself and continuing to stay open to love.

We live in a culture that acts as though being proposed to is the biggest achievement in a woman’s life and yet more woman are unhappy in marriage than not.

This conditioning has women chasing men they don’t even really like, feeling like failures for having bare minimum standards and basing their self-worth on their relationship status.

There is so much more to life than someone wanting to marry you. Do you know how many men have wanted to marry me? That is NOT a brag— it’s not hard to find a codependent or anxiously attached or love/sex addicted single man if all you want is someone to “choose” you.

Pro-tip: stop caring about being chosen and you become highly desirable. The tough part is you can’t fake it. You actually have to develop that self-esteem.

And it starts with caring about what YOU want, more than you care about being chosen.

Whether that results in partnership or a deeply fulfilling single life or some combination is actually not entirely up to you.

If this resonates, then Becoming the Muse was designed for you.

It’s for partnered women wanting to improve their relationship and inspire a more mature, self-led and attuned version of their man, and for single women who are desiring healthy romantic partnership.

There’s been a theme lately with my clients, they feel like they’ve failed when a relationship doesn’t pan out… even when it wasn’t working for them.

Whether it was the woman who was a month into texting someone from an app she’d not yet met or the woman who keeps going back to an ex who derails her nervous system and life every time, they’re focused on not feeling chosen rather than how clearly this person/relationship isn’t a fit for them either!

It’s easy to do when we deeply want partnership.
Our standards can slip, our boundaries can get wobbly, we start to negotiate away our own needs in an effort to stay in.
But do you want ANY relationship or do you want something aligned, connected, inspired, healthy and hot?

Your no makes room for your yes,
C