I see a lot of teachers in the world of polarity taking the idea of being feminine and distorting it.

First, they try to convince you that the reason you’re not being swept off your feet by your prince is because you’re not soft, sexy, and surrendered enough.

So you feel inadequate and ashamed of your lacking femininity and pay them to teach you how to be desirable and lovable.

Barf, y’all.

Where this gets tricky is that it appeals to the women who do struggle to lean back, relax and receive.

And that IS an obstacle to experiencing deeper love and intimacy.

But what feminine embodiment teachers get wrong is that no amount of telling you to soften is going to make you loosen your grip.

Your heart opens and you relax into trust WHEN and only when you feel safe.

And you know who is responsible for creating that safety so you can open?

YOU babe, you are.

And if we’re gonna use polarity world speak, that’s your inner “masculine” that needs to be cultivated. Not your “femininity”. But this is where gender binary terminology falls short and misses the mark. What we’re really talking about is cultivating your secure, adult sense of self.

Once you have created a safe space for you, then you can pay attention to whether or not you want to give him your trust.

If you skip your part, you’re gonna make a lot of painful judgment errors.

I teach women how to be the structure, safety, and support for yourself first.

Because the trust, the receiving, the opening… it’s the natural result. Your Lover, your Muse, she blooms with no effort at all when you’re operating from your mature, adult queen self.

If softening feels impossible, that’s a reason for self-compassion, not self-rejection.

Let’s make you the safe space in your world again,

Caite